Your mother always taught you to pick and choose your battles, and you took that lesson to heart. So much so that you rarely engage in confrontation at all. You even allow some of the things your partner does to roll off your shoulders just to avoid an argument. This leaves you flustered and you find yourself in the same predicaments, but you’re not sure why. Well, it’s because you made it clear that you’re easy to manipulate. Here are three simple steps to getting over that:
Stop Apologizing for The Things You’re Not Sorry About
In arguments, it’s natural for you to want to apologize for your behavior or something you said just to smooth things over, or just because saying sorry seems like the right thing to do. Instead stand firm in your convictions and explain why you reacted the way you did, or said whatever you said. Don’t apologize as a means to end a fight, have the fight. Discuss the issue and find a resolve. The last thing anyone needs is a fake apology.
Don’t Be Afraid to Put Your Foot Down
Yes, you are a woman, and yes women are seen as pink and fluffy, but by no means does that equate to having to deal with foolishness. When you find that you are being made to feel uncomfortable, neglected or mistreated, don’t be afraid to put your foot down and let your partner know what you will and will not deal with. Only then can you have the relationship you want. Sitting on how you feel and not addressing the problem will do nothing but slowly crack the cement in the foundation of your relationship, leaving you both to crumble.
Sometimes You Have to Say ‘No’
If it doesn’t fulfill you or it simply doesn’t make you happy, say no. Your partner may be upset at first but they will see that you are a woman of conviction. Any partner should be able to appreciate this. You need to know what works and doesn’t work for you and should be able to communicate that. Having a solid idea of who you are will better help you tend to the needs of others.
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